Equal Parenting Discussion at the New York Times

The cover of the New York Times Magazine is on the topic of Equal Parenting. The article, written by Lisa Belkin, is an in-depth look inside the equal parenting movement. She also has a new blog on the topic called "Equal Parenting".

This is a relevant topic to me because my husband and I struggle with this all the time. When my husband is home, we are equal parents which I feel very lucky about. We both help with dinner and putting the kids to sleep. But during the day, he is a work so it is my responsibility to be "front line support" as I call it.

After I left my position in Senior Management at Deloitte, I struggled to find a way to keep myself relevant in the career world while raising three boys. I found that utilizing blogging and online social networking can help build an online profile and make the connections to help start my career again when I am ready. Doing this online allows me to participate at night when the kids are asleep or when they are having quiet time at home doing activities on their own. When I have not had a chance to blog all day, I try to sneak it in while the kids are relaxing after dinner or after they go to sleep. The best situation would be to find the time to blog when the kids are at camp or at school - so when my husband comes home we can focus on the kids and then spend some time together.   

I can say that I have not found the right balance yet, so I will be following the discussion to see what others are doing.

Comments

[John Esberg]

Well, in our house we do things based on flexibility. Sometimes I'm not in the mood or feeling well, so my wife handles the chores. At other times its the opposite. We believe its more appropriate to focus on what's important and not what's fair. If you focus on fairness, you are driving your focus to what you don't want and will too often glide towards it.

John

[John Esberg]

Well, in our house we do things based on flexibility. Sometimes I'm not in the mood or feeling well, so my wife handles the chores. At other times its the opposite. We believe its more appropriate to focus on what's important and not what's fair. If you focus on fairness, you are driving your focus to what you don't want and will too often glide towards it.

John